Parents, Schools & Churches
Children cannot borrow regulation from a dysregulated adult.
Why parenting advice fails under stress, and what the adult has to bring before any strategy can work.
Signature Keynote · Justin Sokol
The Extra Six.
Why we react bigger than the moment, and what actually changes it.
The moment is a 4. We register it as a 10. The extra six didn't come from the moment. This keynote shows audiences where it comes from, why knowing better rarely stops it, and the first move that does.
Most reactions aren't about the moment.
A parent snaps over shoes by the door. A leader goes cold in a meeting over one comment. A physician carries one hard exchange home for the whole evening.
Afterward, almost everyone knows the reaction was too big. Many can tell you exactly where it comes from. It happens again anyway.
Insight lives in one system. The reaction runs in another.
That's why more information, more strategies, and more willpower so often fail under pressure. The Extra Six gives audiences a name for that gap, a way to understand it, and something they can do about it the same day.
Three movements.
- 01
Feel it.
A true story of an ordinary moment treated like an emergency, plus a live rhythm demonstration where the stage allows. The room feels the extra six before anyone explains it.
- 02
Understand it.
Why knowing better doesn't stop the reaction. The extra charge comes from older experience the nervous system is still using, and it doesn't answer to reasoning.
- 03
Use it.
Step Zero, taught and practiced in the room: grounding your nervous system before you respond, so there is a gap between trigger and reaction.
What your audience leaves with.
A name for the moments they react bigger than the situation calls for
A clear understanding of why insight and willpower stall under pressure
Step Zero, practiced live, ready to use that day
A simple next step for anyone who wants to go further
One talk. Three rooms.
The core of The Extra Six stays the same. The examples, language, and application are built for the room.
Leaders & Organizations
The quality of leadership is limited by the state of the leader.
Why capable people react under pressure, and what that costs a team's trust and culture.
Healthcare & High-Stakes Professions
Trained to perform under pressure. Still paying for it afterward.
For physicians, attorneys, educators, and performers who hold it together in the moment and carry the extra six home.
Why a drummer?
Rhythm is more than a musical term. It's a human systems concept: timing, tension, release, dynamics, and response.
In music, the same groove can be played at a 4 or at a 10. Same notes. Different charge. People work the same way.
The principles are the same.
The instruments change.
Formats.
Keynote
45 to 60 minutes. Conferences, parent nights, leadership events, and gatherings.
Workshop
90 minutes. The keynote plus extended Step Zero practice and application to your audience.
Podcast & Interview
The Extra Six as a conversation.
About Justin.
Justin Sokol is a Neuro Transformation Coach, Timeline Therapy® Practitioner, and Certified Hypnotist, and the author of The Grounded Heart Method™. He holds a Bachelor of Music in Jazz Performance and a Master of Arts in Teaching.
A professional drummer who has taught drummers privately since he was seventeen, Justin helped develop a creative and performing arts school in Philadelphia. He is an ambassador for the nonprofit Parenting 2.0.
He is a husband and father of three.
Also available as sessions.
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Connection and Mutual Recognition
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Available for conferences, schools, churches, organizations, and leadership events.
justin@justinsokol.comSpeaking Inquiry